Why I Homeschool

3

I never thought in a million years that I would homeschool my children. I didn’t really know anyone who homeschooled. I always pictured homeschooling people as hippies living on a commune, or maybe people living in a religious cult inside a Doomsday bunker. When we joined our church in 2011, I was absolutely shocked to find that in sending our kids to public school we were in the minority! I was amazed by the women of my church, most of them with more than four children. The children were great…faithful, well-mannered, smart, socialized, athletic and accomplished. Their college-aged children had all gone on to great schools, with scholarships. I was impressed, but I always thought that homeschooling was something you had to start from the beginning, certainly before middle school.

Our youngest son, Cooper, started middle school last fall. The year started out fine, but then he got the flu, missed a week of school, and never caught back up. Cooper was not prepared for the attitude of a couple of his middle school teachers after what he was used to in elementary school. I knew I needed to do something, or his whole year would be a waste, and his spirit would be completely broken. I spent a week researching, evaluating curriculum choices, bit the bullet, and pulled him out of school at Christmas break to begin homeschooling him. I was terrified, but the women of my church were wonderful. They gave me both advice and curriculum…I could not have done it without them.

Now I feel like I know what I am doing…mostly. I have seen the changes, positive changes, in Cooper. He is so much more confident and secure in his abilities now. I am much more confident in my abilities now, too. I know how to be legal and organized. I know which educational philosophy is right for us, and which curriculums are the best fit. I know what records to keep and the best way to do it. I am actually considering homeschooling our high schooler next year.

I like the fact that I get to decide what my child is learning. I can use Christian textbooks. I can teach my kid my own values. I can teach difficult or easy subjects at my kid’s own pace. If my child struggles with an academic subject, he can progress more slowly without feeling like a failure. If he is exceptionally gifted in a subject, he can work ahead and finish early. Either way, he is making progress and can feel good about himself. I can encourage my child to be who God made him by including extra learning opportunities, mentorships, part-time jobs, and special trips. And one of the best parts: we spend less time homeschooling each day than I used to spend driving and sitting in car line!

Just because you want to homeschool, don’t think you have to do it all alone. If you think you can’t handle high school chemistry or calculus, you don’t have to. You can always use a homeschool co-op, or a tutor, an online class, or you and a friend can swap off teaching your kids the subjects you are most comfortable with. You can even send your teenager to a local college where he can earn college credit and high school credit at the same time. There are tons of options.

What about socialization? You can get plenty of that in the neighborhood, at church, playing sports…yes, sports! Most local homeschool co-ops have sports teams that actually play in real leagues, with private schools. My high school age son will be playing football this fall at the high school we are zoned for. Here in South Carolina you can participate in almost all extra-curricular activities. It is legal…all you have to do is fill out some forms.

When I meet someone new, and they find out I homeschool, I get one of two reactions. Either, “Oh, I do, too!” or “There is no way I would ever do that!”. Homeschooling isn’t for everyone. I know that homeschooling is a weird, unnatural, and seemingly crazy concept to most people. It isn’t as terrifying as you think. Every day I realize more and more advantages to this unnatural way of life. It can really be a great experience for your child, and for you.

Kary

Sometimes I link to:

Monday: Skip to my Lou, Between Naps on the Porch, Jam Hands, Home Stories A-Z, How to Nest for Less, Today’s Creative Blog, Thrifty Décor Chick, Not Just a Housewife, Boogieboard Cottage,Time Warp Wife, Chef In Training, The Ivy Cottage Blog, Holly’s Stamping Addiction, Serendipity and Spice, Homestead Revival

Tuesday: Bowl Full of Lemons, Organize & Decorate Everything, Primitive and Proper, homework, Tilly’s Nest, Elizabeth & Co., Uncommon Slice of Suburbia, Project Queen, Sugar Bee Crafts, Time Warp Wife, Coastal Charm, The DIY Dreamer

Wednesday: House of Hepworths, Shabby Creek Cottage, Ivy and Elephants, Someday Crafts, the 36th Avenue, Southern Lovely, seven thirty-three, Semi-Homemade Mom, The Real Housewives of Riverton, lil pink pocket, Stone Gable, No Minimalist Here, A Creative Princess

Thursday: The Coloradolady, Common Ground,Five Days Five Ways , My Romantic Home, Delightful Order, Imparting Grace, My Repurposed Life, Liz Marie Blog, Redoux,

Friday: Tatertots & Jello, Funky Junk Interiors, Six Sisters Stuff, Serenity Now, Whipperberry, Nap Time Crafters, Sew Many Ways, Fox Hollow Cottage

Saturday: Positively Splendid

Sunday: Alderberry Hill, Flour Me With Love, Stone Gable, This Gal Cooks, Nifty, Thrifty Things

Advertisements

My new blog…whatever Kary says.

2

There are some things I want to blog about, but don’t necessarily think that they fit in here on One Dollar Cottage. So I made a new blog, whatever Kary says. The name means nothing to anyone except for our family! My husband, John, uses that phrase as the answer to any question he wants to avoid answering. “Whatever Kary says,” or if he is feeling especially lazy, just “WKS.”

So without further ado, my first post on WKS.

As a little girl, I had stick straight blonde hair.

20130506-221112.jpg
I can remember sitting on the floor while my mother sat on the couch and set my hair in pin curls. The next morning she would brush out the pin curls, and before lunch my hair would be as straight as a stick!

20130506-221039.jpg
In the 80’s I spent hours with hot rollers, my hair dryer and Shaper hairspray to achieve that perfect hair helmet.

20130506-221227.jpg
Then I had children. Hormones are a funny thing. I now have this…

20130506-221453.jpg
I have been fighting the curl for over a decade now. I always loved my hair in an angled bob, and would try and force my hair to behave…

20130506-221641.jpg
But I have given up the fight. As of April 29th, I am now a Curly Girl. Aside from the obvious, this means I am following this book, Curly Girl, by Elaine Massey:

20130506-222038.jpg
The steps to the curly girl or no-poo method are:
1. Clarify with a sulfate shampoo before beginning.
2. Have your hair trimmed. This will get rid of any damage or split ends.
3. Stop using a brush. It damages your hair whether it is wet or dry. It causes frizz and makes dry hair tangle. Use a wide-toothed comb instead, or even better, use your fingers.
4. Stop shampooing your hair. Using conditioner in place of shampoo will cleanse the hair just as effectively without stripping it of moisture.
5. Give your hair time to adjust. It takes 2-4 weeks for your hair to adjust to the no shampoo. It may even look worse at first.
6. Wash your scalp with conditioner.
7. Distribute conditioner throughout all of your hair and untangle gently.
8. Apply products to your hair. Do it while it is soaking wet if you have curlier hair, but wait five minutes or so if you have medium to wavy curly hair. Put product in your hands and rub them together to emulsify. Then, smooth or rake the product into your hair by sections. A common method is to begin with a leave-in cream or conditioner to decrease frizz and then follow with a gel for hold and definition.
9. Gently scrunch your hair with a t-shirt, paper towels, or a micro-fiber towel to remove excess moisture, as a generic terrycloth towel will make your hair frizzy.
10. Dry your hair. Air drying is the easiest and gentlest way to dry your hair. If you must blow dry your hair use a diffuser to avoid frizz.

Yes, this means that I have not “washed” my hair in almost two weeks. And I have had some rough days. But I can tell a difference in the curl. The front has always been curly, and the back more wavy. Now I am starting to get a lot more definition in the back. I have had a lot of trial and error with product, and I have found I can go three or four days between co-washings, just rewetting it a little in the mornings to calm it down.

I will be posting pictures to track my progress!

Kary

Sometimes I link to:

Monday: Skip to my Lou, Between Naps on the Porch, Jam Hands, Home Stories A-Z, How to Nest for Less, Today’s Creative Blog, Thrifty Décor Chick, Not Just a Housewife, Boogieboard Cottage,Time Warp Wife, Chef In Training, The Ivy Cottage Blog, Holly’s Stamping Addiction, Serendipity and Spice, Homestead Revival

Tuesday: Bowl Full of Lemons, Organize & Decorate Everything, Primitive and Proper, homework, Tilly’s Nest, Elizabeth & Co., Uncommon Slice of Suburbia, Project Queen, Sugar Bee Crafts, Time Warp Wife, Coastal Charm, The DIY Dreamer

Wednesday: House of Hepworths, Shabby Creek Cottage, Ivy and Elephants, Someday Crafts, the 36th Avenue, Southern Lovely, seven thirty-three, Semi-Homemade Mom, The Real Housewives of Riverton, lil pink pocket, Stone Gable, No Minimalist Here, A Creative Princess

Thursday: The Coloradolady, Common Ground,Five Days Five Ways , My Romantic Home, Delightful Order, Imparting Grace, My Repurposed Life, Liz Marie Blog, Redoux,

Friday: Tatertots & Jello, Funky Junk Interiors, Six Sisters Stuff, Serenity Now, Whipperberry, Nap Time Crafters, Sew Many Ways, Fox Hollow Cottage

Saturday: Positively Splendid

Sunday: Alderberry Hill, Flour Me With Love, Stone Gable, This Gal Cooks, Nifty, Thrifty Things

Curly Girl

0

As a little girl, I had stick straight blonde hair.

20130506-221112.jpg
I can remember sitting on the floor while my mother sat on the couch and set my hair in pin curls. The next morning she would brush out the pin curls, and before lunch my hair would be as straight as a stick!

20130506-221039.jpg
In the 80’s I spent hours with hot rollers, my hair dryer and Shaper hairspray to achieve that perfect hair helmet.

20130506-221227.jpg
Then I had children. Hormones are a funny thing. I now have this…

20130506-221453.jpg
I have been fighting the curl for over a decade now. I always loved my hair in an angled bob, and would try and force my hair to behave…

20130506-221641.jpg
But I have given up the fight. As of April 29th, I am now a Curly Girl. Aside from the obvious, this means I am following this book, Curly Girl, by Elaine Massey:

20130506-222038.jpg
The steps to the curly girl or no-poo method are:
1. Clarify with a sulfate shampoo before beginning.
2. Have your hair trimmed. This will get rid of any damage or split ends.
3. Stop using a brush. It damages your hair whether it is wet or dry. It causes frizz and makes dry hair tangle. Use a wide-toothed comb instead, or even better, use your fingers.
4. Stop shampooing your hair. Using conditioner in place of shampoo will cleanse the hair just as effectively without stripping it of moisture.
5. Give your hair time to adjust. It takes 2-4 weeks for your hair to adjust to the no shampoo. It may even look worse at first.
6. Wash your scalp with conditioner.
7. Distribute conditioner throughout all of your hair and untangle gently.
8. Apply products to your hair. Do it while it is soaking wet if you have curlier hair, but wait five minutes or so if you have medium to wavy curly hair. Put product in your hands and rub them together to emulsify. Then, smooth or rake the product into your hair by sections. A common method is to begin with a leave-in cream or conditioner to decrease frizz and then follow with a gel for hold and definition.
9. Gently scrunch your hair with a t-shirt, paper towels, or a micro-fiber towel to remove excess moisture, as a generic terrycloth towel will make your hair frizzy.
10. Dry your hair. Air drying is the easiest and gentlest way to dry your hair. If you must blow dry your hair use a diffuser to avoid frizz.

Yes, this means that I have not “washed” my hair in almost two weeks. And I have had some rough days. But I can tell a difference in the curl. The front has always been curly, and the back more wavy. Now I am starting to get a lot more definition in the back. I have had a lot of trial and error with product, and I have found I can go three or four days between co-washings, just rewetting it a little in the mornings to calm it down.

I will be posting pictures to track my progress!

Kary

Sometimes I link to:

Monday: Skip to my Lou, Between Naps on the Porch, Jam Hands, Home Stories A-Z, How to Nest for Less, Today’s Creative Blog, Thrifty Décor Chick, Not Just a Housewife, Boogieboard Cottage,Time Warp Wife, Chef In Training, The Ivy Cottage Blog, Holly’s Stamping Addiction, Serendipity and Spice, Homestead Revival

Tuesday: Bowl Full of Lemons, Organize & Decorate Everything, Primitive and Proper, homework, Tilly’s Nest, Elizabeth & Co., Uncommon Slice of Suburbia, Project Queen, Sugar Bee Crafts, Time Warp Wife, Coastal Charm, The DIY Dreamer

Wednesday: House of Hepworths, Shabby Creek Cottage, Ivy and Elephants, Someday Crafts, the 36th Avenue, Southern Lovely, seven thirty-three, Semi-Homemade Mom, The Real Housewives of Riverton, lil pink pocket, Stone Gable, No Minimalist Here, A Creative Princess

Thursday: The Coloradolady, Common Ground,Five Days Five Ways , My Romantic Home, Delightful Order, Imparting Grace, My Repurposed Life, Liz Marie Blog, Redoux,

Friday: Tatertots & Jello, Funky Junk Interiors, Six Sisters Stuff, Serenity Now, Whipperberry, Nap Time Crafters, Sew Many Ways, Fox Hollow Cottage

Saturday: Positively Splendid

Sunday: Alderberry Hill, Flour Me With Love, Stone Gable, This Gal Cooks, Nifty, Thrifty Things